Surrounded by Idiots (Omgiven av Idioter)
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How to understand those that cant be understood.
Some seriously state that they're surrounded by idiots. Some, funnily enough, state this more often than others. And certainly we could find many different types of problem to get along. Some examples you might recognize; have you ever tried to reason with your partner and nothing went as planned or expected? Or have you left a meeting in confusion with the feeling that you truly did not understand a single person in the room. And worst of all, some people never seem to understand what you are saying, no matter howe clear you express yourself. Little by little the idiots turns up both here and there ...
But seriously. An established method to come to an understanding about others is to first understand yourself. The definition of social competence is the ability to understand and foresee your own behaviors impact on the behavior of others. If this is true, the solution is all about self-insight. But to be honest - who has the time and makes the effort for profound psychological studies to get to know oneself? Going to therapy is in addition insanely expensive, and a fairly unreliable method.
Now there is a readable solution here in the book ”Surrounded by Idiots” . The author Thomas Erikson describes one of the worlds most used methods to sort out the differences in human communication. It is a method coming from the famous DISA profiles, that use a color scheme of red, yellow, green and blue as a base to describe different behaviour and personalities. It is written with lots of humor and gives the reader a steady guidance which makes the book very practical. The focus is on usability and the methods described works every time you meet another person.
Some of the headlines:
How do I recognize a red, yellow, green and blue person?
The strengths and weaknesses of the different colors
Body language – does it always look the same?
How should I treat a person who is not at all like me?
How does written communication work between different colors?
How do you give feedback to the different colors?
The contents of the book offers insights. You will understand what it means when one of your colleague's desk is more cluttered than others. You will know how to respond to your boorish boss who never seems to listen to your ideas, and learn how to get your silent friend to admit what she really thinks about your new sweater. Soon, you also know why the Prime Minister is like he is, and how the girl in the mail department should be dealt with when she tells you that there is no package for you. And you will radically reduce the amount of idiots in your environment.
People are of course not an exact science, but with the help of this knowledge lots of painful misunderstandings will be avoided. The method is described on a popular science based level, but describes specific communication styles followed by hands-on advice on how best to respond to each of them.
Said in all humbleness: You will be amazed at what happens after you've read the book.