Surrounded by Idiots (Omgiven av Idioter)
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How to understand those that cant be understood.
Some people seriously state that they're surrounded by idiots. Some, oddly enough, state this more often than others. And certainly we can find many different types of problems that exist without getting along. Some examples you might recognise; have you ever tried to reason with your partner but nothing went as planned? Or have you left a meeting in confusion with the feeling that you truly did not understand a single person in the room? And worst of all, some people never seem to understand what you are saying, no matter how clearly you express yourself. Little by little the idiots in our lives turn up here and there ...
But seriously. An established method to come to an understanding about others is to first understand yourself. The definition of social competence is the ability to understand and foresee your own behaviours impact on the behavior of others. If this is true, the solution is all about self-insight. But to be honest - who has the time and makes the effort for profound psychological studies to get to know oneself? Going to therapy is in addition insanely expensive, and a fairly unreliable method.
Now there is a readable solution here in the book Surrounded by Idiots. The author Thomas Erikson describes one of the worlds most used methods to sort out the differences in human communication. It is a method that comes from the famous DISA profiles, that use a color scheme of red, yellow, green and blue as a base to describe different behaviours. It is written with lots of humor and gives the reader a steady guidance which makes the book practical. The focus is on usability and the methods described works every time you meet another person.
Some of the headlines:
How do I recognise a red, yellow, green and blue person?
The strengths and weaknesses of the different colors.
Body language – does it always look the same?
How should I treat a person who is not at all like me?
How does written communication work between different colors?
How do you give feedback to the different colors?
The contents of the book offers insights. You will understand what it means when one of your colleague's desk is more cluttered than others. You will know how to respond to your boorish boss who never seems to listen to your ideas, and learn how to get your silent friend to admit what she really thinks about your new sweater. Soon, you also know why the Prime Minister is like he is, and how the girl in the mail department should be dealt with when she tells you that there is no package for you. And you will radically reduce the amount of idiots in your environment.
People are of course not an exact science, but with the help of this knowledge lots of painful misunderstandings will be avoided. The method is described on a popular science based level, but describes specific communication styles followed by hands-on advice on how best to respond to each of them.
Said in all humbleness: You will be amazed at what happens after you've read the book.
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Reviews in magazines:
”The book is incredibly rewarding and provides a lot of aha-moments. It gives you an instructive view into the different behaviors and how to handle these. The text is popular psychology but based on behavioral scientific research. The book is written in a fantastic vivid language and contains plenty of spot-on situations that you are sure to run in to when different colors are mixed. These situations have a high identification factor and are sure to make you laugh.
After having read the book you will be guaranteed to start analyzing friends, acquaintances, colleagues and start matching them to the color scheme. Just don’t forget to analyze yourself too. I warmly recommend the book to all people not dependent of profession. If you don’t read this book you’re an idiot! -Kvalitetsmagasinet
”The percentage of idiots in our surroundings will drastically be reduced if we learn to communicate better” – Dagens Medicin
”Really a treat to read. Creates an understanding of other people – including yourself! We are different! We react and act different! It helps me evolve my social competence! 4/5. Marianne Ernhild through Bokus
”Now I can really understand why I am surrounded by a wide range of peculiar people. They don’t get it. And they are slow. The book is so instructive and also very funny. I laughed until my cheeks hurt. It came to very good use when a friend of mine tested the DISA method on me. I knew more about what it was about. This book will be a helpful tool for me in order to approach my surroundings a bit different. A bit more on their terms. Which – between us- will please them a lot.
Learn from it!
Get entertained by it!”
Marie Vallée 4/5 through Bokus
”A very inspiring and instructive book about different personalities. Gives a great description of how bosses/ managers and other individuals can understand the personalities in a constructive way. Warmly recommend it!” Nelum Berglund 5/5 through Bokus
"The best book. Thank you for this book. I am a very red boss and now I know how to approach staff and customers. I see people in colors now!” 5/5 Åsa Sundström
"The book can be read and recommended to all people – not just managers and people wanting to handle other people professionally, even though you don’t feel like it. Even the red Alfa has a few things to learn through toning himself down, instead of being excluded and missing out on valuable information.”
Reviews from German readers:
"I definitely recommend the book! We've been putting people into different categories for a long time. This is a very entertaining and colorful way to do it. 4 out 5 stars!" - Mimmicita, LovelyBooks